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A Few Characteristics of Emotionally Abusive Men

It can be extremely difficult to recognize abuse, especially when one is blinded by love and forgiveness. While being sympathetic and agreeable are great aspects to a healthy relationship, sometimes it becomes easy to get stuck in a situation where you realize you just aren’t happy anymore but may not be sure what to do.

This page attempts to describe a few characteristics of emotionally abusive men and in no particular order, they are as follows:

  • Emotionally abusive men are typically the type of men who always need to be in control.
  • They will become jealous and possessive without reason and have mood swings that seem to come out of nowhere.
  • These men will manipulate by saying things like ‘you’re crazy’ so they don’t have to take the blame for their actions.
  • Emotional abuse typically rears its head in the form of an imbalance in power; warning signs may be a feeling that your life isn’t being fulfilled or you ‘never can get a word in.’
  • Abusers of all types like to ‘put you in your place’ by making you feel as though you cannot find anyone else.
  • It is very common for abusers to check your private emails and social networking sites without asking and then become angry when they find something they think is ‘evidence’ of cheating.
  • Sometimes recognizing the difference between an abusive and a healthy relationship takes therapy, not just for the abuser but for the person being abused, as well.
  • Even if you did something ‘hurtful’, ‘mean’, or ‘wrong’, this does not make it okay for someone to abuse you. This also very common with abusive men.
  • Intentionally hurting someone else’s’ feelings or trying to embarrass them is a form of abuse, because it puts them in a position where they may be viewed as less valuable.
  • They may set out to punish you in several ways.
  • They are completely disrespectful and completely disregard your rights, feelings and opinions.
  • They have a recurring history of abuse in the relationships they’ve had
  • What may start as verbal abuse can over time become physical abuse, if the issues are not resolved.

Keep in mind, there is a big difference between emotional abuse and arguments; disagreements happen in any healthy relationship, its how each party reacts to them that makes the difference.

Domestic violence is not acceptable and should not be tolerated whether the victim is male or female. Every person has the right to live a life free from violence.

If you are in an abusive relationship and requires an urgent response or needs in-depth support please contact the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

Domestic Violence UK